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For Rob Kelly - Hypnotherapist, Consultant & Lecturer

The following testimonials and feedback are all 100% genuine comments from real clients, and have not been edited in any way shape or form. These concern REAL experiences, from REAL people, who have undergone therapy with Rob.
The letters/cards/emails are all available for inspection at the Cambridge Clinic (as per the IAPH policy on the use of testimonials)
Most of the clients mentioned here, needed less than 10 sessions of therapy.


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Dear Rob
After suffering terribly from M.E. for 14 years, I am totally amazed to be writing to you today, to tell you that it is now completely gone!
I have taken charge of my thoughts and beliefs, and cured myself! Thank you so much for sharing your 'limiting beliefs' technique with me - I am now the person I always knew that I could be. My husband, my family and my GP can't believe  - but that is their 'limiting belief'.
Thank you Rob, so very much. 
Emily x 
PS I hope you get this in time to add to your book!

Emily Felgate, Pinner, London

When I look back now and see the person I was all that time ago before I went into therapy, I can see a very troubled man. I was in therapy for sometime with Rob but the personable nature of the man made it a pleasure to go through. I have found that when I look back there is no comparison between the person I am now and the person I was then. I feel a great weight has been lifted. Before therapy I didn't really value my life, I had thoughts of ending everything, now I am looking forward to each new day with relish and enthusiasm unencumbered by anger and guilt. I feel I have not only got my life back, I got an insight into how my mind works and I have also gained a friend. Cheers Rob keep up the good work!
Thanks Rob,

Ben

Dear Robert
I just wated to say thank you for provideing me with the mechanism to quit the fags. Worked like a dream, and the whole process was without effort, stress or discomfort. The implications of giving up the evil weed have been far-reaching and the general level of my everyday existance has been raised dramatically, as has my personal esteem! Thanks again.

Darren Dixon, Cambridge University

Hi Rob
Just to let you know, I have just completed your online research survey :)
Now, about my emetophobia....... it's completely bloody gone!
I'm sorry I doubted you, and I'm sorry I was a difficult client, but you are a genius.  I had tried everything to try and get some relief from the fear that was crippling my life, and now it is completely gone - and it's amazing.  I read your testimonials page before coming to see you, and I remember thinking 'God, I would love to feel like those people do" - well, now I do, and I couldn't be happier. I can eat anything I want, I can drink anything I want, and all my other anxieties have now completely gone. Thank you so so much, you have given me a life.

Sara Carter
PS Big bottle of JD on it's way!

After suffering from occasional but severe insomnia for years, I now sleep like a baby, even when I have problems and anxiety in my life. On average it now takes me 15 minutes to get to sleep - before, even when I wasn't suffering from a bout of insomnia, it took a lot longer, around an hour. There were also several completely sleepless nights.
Christine - Cambridge

I cant believe how different I am now to what I was 18 months ago. I went to see Rob because I had a fear of sickness (Emetophobia) and as he soon noticed when he met me I also had a very low opinion of myself.  It wasn't easy talking about myself but he really did have a very good way of putting people at ease, takes his work very serious but he has a very relaxed humorous way with people. After a few visits to his clinic he tried to assure me that my phobia had gone, I wonted to believe this but couldn't as I needed proof.  Little did I realise proof was there.  Sat on a plane this year relaxed didn't think about feeling air sick, noticed I was agreeing to go out more,tried different foods without thinking twice about it.  The very best of proof was a short stay in hospital, not only me being sick but others around me and I COPED it was a FANTASTIC feeling even though I felt cr*p I could smile because at last I believe the phobia had gone.
I have to say when I last saw Rob I still had a couple of tears in my eyes and that was because I still didn't feel good about myself so Rob introduced me to his dream technique, now that really has changed me, it was difficult putting it into practise at first and I remember Emailing Rob moaning it wasn't working and his usual patients shone through and he told me to keep trying as it will work, and believe me it does, I'v gone from using the dream about 20 times a day to just now and again if I feel I'm being negative about anything. Both friends and family have noticed the change in me and its all thanks to one fantastic man, Rob Kelly.  Keep the good work going Rob.
 
Jenny - Midlands

When I look back now and see the person I was all that time ago before I went into therapy, I can see a very troubled man. I was in therapy for sometime with Rob but the personable nature of the man made it a pleasure to go through. I have found that when I look back there is no comparison between the person I am now and the person I was then. I feel a great weight has been lifted. Before therapy I didn't really value my life, I had thoughts of ending everything, now I am looking forward to each new day with relish and enthusiasm unencumbered by anger and guilt. I feel I have not only got my life back, I got an insight into how my mind works and I have also gained a friend. Cheers Rob keep up the good work!
Ben - London
 
On my first visit I sat waiting and I read your thank you cards from other clients which I found inspirational.
From that moment, I decided that I to wanted to be another one of your success stories.
Well here I am doing just that!
As you probably remember I would often come into your room with tears in my eyes but within minutes you had me giggling and not once did I leave without a smile on my face and little by little feeling more empowered with every session.
I was a very anxious, nervous person with low self esteem. I was hoping you would wave a magic wand and make it all disappear, but you soon made me realise it was something I had to do for myself,  I took everything you said on board even if at times a little skeptical.
After you taught me the dream technique I put it into to practice straight away, at first it was incredibly hard because I had spent so long stuck in a negative and obsessive frame of mind but after a few sessions with you and using my own massive determined effort it started to really work and it made my confidence grow even more knowing I had the power to change my negative thoughts.
I am now so much better,  I am having fun again, laughing lots, going out with friends and filling my life with lots of positive and happy things.
My family are so pleased at what you have helped me to achieve in such a short time.  
Your humour and positive personality are infectious and I feel I have spent my sessions chatting with a friend not a therapist.
Thank you for helping me find a more positive and confident me

Gemma Dawson - consulting for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Dear Rob...
By November 2008, it felt like my whole world had spiralled out of control, contemplating suicide, I felt like I’d reached the lowest  point in my life .   I had begun to think that no-one or any therapy would ever truly help  me  find a release from my symptoms.  Since my teens I have suffered with periodic bouts of anxiety which has led to chronic depression,  and  been unsuccessfully treated by a number of psychiatrists as well as psychologists, with treatments lasting from  between 1-3 years at a time.  
 
I’ll never forget my first meeting with Rob Kelly, at which he told me I was a very straightforward case to treat!  I remember thinking to myself, this guy seems very sure of himself, he can’t be for real!!  I guess I was sceptical, but nethertheless I didn’t let that put me off, after all, I felt like I had nothing to lose by trying out his treatment,  at worst I’d be back to square one and at best I might even begin to feel well again.
 
Throughout the treatment,  I along with others began to notice small but subtle changes in myself and my mood and although I didn’t know it then, it was the therapy kicking in and  beginning of the road back for me!  Later the changes became much less subtle and much more noticeable and with it an accompanied feeling that  I was approaching the start of a new beginning.  My breakthrough came some months later, I still don’t know exactly how he works his magic, where others before have failed, but I can only describe it as a deep seated knowing that you’ve arrived and life from here can represent something quite different and better to the one you’ve lived before.  
 
I don’t know where I’d be today if I hadn’t come across Rob’s website and took the steps I did to go and meet him.  I don’t even want to contemplate it.  His therapy has literally transformed my life for the better, one which has enabled me to return to work,  feel so much more confident, healthy and strong in myself and I know, that I don’t ever need to return back to where I’ve come from.
 
Thank-you so much Rob,  you gave me a lifeline when others just wanted to throw tablets at me!  In my eyes you’ll remain a very talented and unique therapist.  I just hope this gives anyone who’s reading this, that has gone through something similar to me, the courage and reassurance to pick up the phone or e-mail you today and make an appointment to come and see you.  They wont regret it and the chances are they’ll be kicking themselves like I did, that they didn’t find you sooner!!

Sarah (March 09)  

Dear Rob
You are a fu**ing star mate.
It is six months to the day since I came to see you, and I can honestly say that not only have I not smoked a single fag, but I haven't really even thought about it.
No side effects, no withdrawal, I didn't kill the wife, and I haven't put on loads of weight. I'm amazed (and happy), my wife loves you, and my GP wants to send you all his smokers. You have probably forgotten who I am, but I am the annoying paddy who was on 50 a day. Joking aside Rob, it's a fucking miracle mate.  Thank you so much.

Gordon McDavy
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Rob
My life was being ruined by my huge fear of being sick - which I had tried EVERYTHING to resolve: NLP, CBT, Medication, Counselling etc..... I am VERY pleased to say that my phobia is now completely gone. I cannot thank you enough for the time, patience and understanding you have shown me - you have given me back my life. I would recommend Pure Hypnoanalysis to anyone.

Diane Barker, Prudential, Cambridge

I had been struggling with severe nerves before test situations, anxiety and a lack of self-confidence for some time, when a friend suggested that hypnotherapy might be able to help... Following a great many hours of searching the internet and obsessively reading the entire websites of a large number of hypnotherapists and hypnotherapy associations, I found that the IAPH and Rob's websites were the ones I kept coming back to. Everything was explained in a clear and logical manner and Rob did appear to look normal... maybe I could give it a try! At the initial consultation Rob (who still didn't seem to be in any way strange!) explained that I had social phobia, an intense fear of being judged. This was the first hurdle. Did I believe what he was telling me? I certainly didn't really like the idea of having social phobia! After all, I was certain people would think me weird if they felt that were the case...!!! After much deliberation, and at least 3000 questions later, I decided to 'bite the bullet' and try a course of Pure Hypnoanalysis. It turned out that being hypnotised was in no way frightening! It simply involved relaxing whilst listening to Rob's voice. I did, however, initially, find the therapy somewhat less than fun due to my fear of being judged, and was (unnecessarily!) extremely nervous.

Rob was, however, incredibly patient, compassionate, encouraging and completely non-judgemental and the sessions gradually became easier. (Rob is, however, human and does have one fault. He will, without a doubt, be running at least 10 minutes late for each and every session!) Once the course of hypnoanalysis was finished, Rob helped me to change some limiting beliefs, which were still preventing my social phobia from completely disappearing, by teaching me his 'Dream Process'. I had a tendency to view myself in a very negative way, often without really realising it, and this process enabled me to recognise these negative thoughts, reframe them and consequently feel more positive. Although I initially found the process frustrating (I had to apply it rather frequently to start with!) within a few weeks of using it, I noticed that I was approaching many things in a more confident way and was feeling much less anxious. For me, the changes that have occurred as a result of the therapy have taken place gradually (and are still occurring!) as opposed to the sudden relief of symptoms described by many people, but that's not to say that these changes have been any less significant!! I now feel much happier, more confident, in control of my life and understand myself far better. Rob is an amazing person who really does genuinely care about helping people and this, along with his enthusiasm and sense of humour, really contributed to the success of the therapy. Presumably if you are reading this testimonial you are considering going to see Rob - I would definitely 110% recommend it! I found the therapy incredibly interesting and (dramatic as this sounds!) it really has changed my life.

Charlotte, Cambridge Jan 2009

Hi Rob
Wow you have blown me away with your talents.  
I came to you after seeking therapy, 18 months ago, as I felt like I had made the worst mistake of my life.
I felt out of control of my life, emotions and feelings, much worse than before I even ventured into the world of hypnotherapy.
I had felt like it would be better if I wasn't here as I was starting to feel like I was loosing and pushing away all my friends and my relationship
with my family just wasn't the same and I didn't know where to turn.
  Then I had a recommendation from a family friend to check you out and I'm so glad that I did. From first meeting you I felt like I had found someone that got me, understood how I was feeling without even telling you much.  I immediately trusted you to help me and as a result you have been able to help me within 3 sessions.
  For years, well all my life, people have always commented on my lack of confidence in myself. I have been on a constant rollercoaster with my moods either really happy with life and living it to the full and then over a period of time my stress levels would get so much that I would end up in a depression. I would normally pick myself up, usually by changing jobs or meeting someone new, however would always eventually end up where I started. When I hit 40 I decided that I needed to fix this continuous cycle.Everyone around me was moving on with their lives and I was just going round in circles driving myself and everyone else mad.  My sister had heard of analytical hypnotherapy and one Xmas we had a family discussion around the process,  we all agreed that it was exactly what I needed to understand why I was always getting so stressed out.  I was also getting really fed up with everyone blaming work as I felt that I should really be able to cope better but the older I was getting the worse the stress levels were getting.
  On starting the therapy it soon became apparent that I had repressed memories. I was totally not prepared for what followed as I thought that sort of stuff happened to everyone else and surely something that bad I would remember. It has taken 12 sessions with my first therapist and a year later 3 sessions with you to finally make sense of it all and put it back in the past where it will now stay.  I can really see now looking back over my life how this repressed memory has affected my life.  I have now let out all of the emotions and several boxes of kleenex later I am now feeling like you have opened all the doors and windows from my glass box, that I feel I have been living in my whole life. I can feel life and it feels GREAT.
  Straight after our last session I almost ran out of the building, i wanted to shout out loud in the car park I'M FREEEEEEE WORLD AND I'M COMING TO FIND YOU.  I did resist and instead screamed down the phone to a friend.
  I feel elated, relieved, happy, at peace, excited and full of love for life,my friends and family. Its been nearly 6 hours since the session and even now I am smiling and laughing.  I want everyone to see who I am, I'm not hiding or fitting in anymore, I AM ME and feeling really positive about the rest of my life. I truly stand by the phrase "Life begins at 40" as my life is starting right now.
  Words really can't explain how grateful I am to you, you have a unique gift of giving back life and I'm just so pleased that I persevered with this as I could have so easily given up and accepted my previous life.  I will have no hesitation in recommending this anyone and who knows one day I may be sitting in the other chair!!!
  THANK you again

'K', London

Dear Rob
Having flown many times is my life i can say that each time the experience for me had got worse.The fear is very hard to decribe.The build up to the holiday i would be very stressed and anxous,looking at planes in the sky thinking oh my god why did i agree to go on holiday.
On the morning of the holiday i would have several vodkas (im not even a drinker) but i would still be a nervous wreck when boarding.Id try not to let anyone see how i felt as i didnt want to look stupid.In my eyes the flight i was getting on was going to be the worst ever flight.Once on holiday i was never fully relaxed as i knew i had to get on a plane to get home.
I had met Rob a few times at friends parties.Having booked my summer holiday for August 2008 I decided to book a session with Rob and try to get myself sorted out.In the back of my mind i was sceptical about what he could do for me but i had to give it a go.
After the session with Rob i felt that he had changed my life.During the session Rob spoke to me and soon described my personality down to a t.Everything he told me about myself i could relate to.He then put me in a very relaxed place and talked to me about my fear.After leaving the session i felt like a different person.Not only did he cure my fear of flying he made think more positive about life.
On the morning of my holiday i didnt feel my usual stressed out state.Take off was always my biggest fear but on this occasion i thought about all the positive things that Rob had told me.This was the first take off that i have looked over at my husband and children smiling rather than crying.The rest of the flight went well and on landing i felt so pleased with myself.I was totally relaxed on holiday as coming home was not an
 issue.I can honestly say i could fly tomorrow and it would not worry me.I think Rob is a very special and clever man and i will always be gratefull to him.

Nicola Wiffen, Haverhill Aug 2008

Dear Rob
I cannot believe that something so horrible, and difficult to
comprehend, was resolved so easily with you - in just one session
You made is so easy for me to to talk about it, and I now feel better than ever.
Thank you so much for giving me back my life.  After the rape I never
thought I would ever be able to feel ‘normal’ again.
Thank you so much

Clare Bunting, Cambridge

Hi Rob,
I hope that you're keeping well.
I realised that I was meant to call you last week however thought I would drop you an e-mail for now. Since we last met, as discussed, I have been applying your DREAM technique and beating the demons. To date I am pleasantly surprised at the outcome. My anxiety prior to driving has considerably subsided and whilst before I would dwell on it for hours on end, since applying DREAM the negative thoughts have started to diminish which has undoubtedly increased my confidence behind the wheel. I have also found that the frequency of the negative thoughts are decreasing. I have travelled short distances on the motorway feeling more confident and will write again when I travel further.
In addition, I have found myself being less angry in relation to small matters which would have bothered me i.e., Ian not cleaning the kitchen or coming home late from work. I thought this was the norm however now that I have a different positive approach I can certainly recognise it wasn't.
I will continue to apply the technique and hopefully next time I will be able to report further developments. The day I left your office, I made a promise not to be scared anymore and since that day life began to change! Thank you. Furthermore, When that little devil on my shoulder rears it's ugly head, I tell it to shut the fu.k up!
Kind Regards
SD - London - Jan 2009

I was very nervous about the thought of Hypnosis and didn't think it would work for me as I've had this black cloud hanging over me, my whole life..(well since I could remember), and thought I would take this to the grave....but i'm the other side now as my therapy finished nearly 2 months ago now, and I'm still in shock as to what's happened and I still can't believe the new me....I really can't put into words how this has changed my life. I am now such a confident adult, who's wearing a constant smile, and don't think of all the bad stuff that was in my childhood. I'm 38 and can't believe I've got so much to look forward to. I understand it now when someone say's they owe there life to someone, cause that's how I feel toward my therapist. He will never know how much he has done for me. I will never doubt until I've tried something now.
Louise Benton - Cambridge Nov 2008

I first came to Rob after sessions with two other hypnotherapists….
I originally went to hypno as my last resort before I booked myself into a mental hospital and started a down hill spiral of medication which I would have tried before only I had a tablet phobia!! After almost 8 years of counselling and was still looking for that “cure” …..(if there ever was one )  
I suffered from such anxiety that was almost taking over my life – couldn’t understand it ..didn’t know why I felt like that ,,was scared of everything and felt  like I was about to drop dead at the drop of a hat .
Thought it stemmed from a long term relationship break up – suffered bad anxiety and panic attacks for years which eventually I learned to control to a degree but on a bad day I would feel like I was in hell.
Some days I felt so bad I couldn’t go out of the house …confused …scared ….
I started to see Rob and although at the time I  didn’t really think what we spoke about or I spoke about in our sessions helped …but then it started to make sense
To cut a long story short IM FREE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I cant say to you what exactly freed me guess looking at things differently and admitting to things that were right in front of me I chose to ignore. But now I can walk and go somewhere without the whole anxiety state taking over ….I’m free to do what I want without fear of how I may feel ….
I’m still Woking  on my other personal issues
ect but I am working on that and understand why I think like that so I’m half way there…but I can because I’m not influenced by my anxiety ….
I’m so thankful I tried hypnotherapy TOTALLY recommend  hypnotherapy !!!! I’m so glad I found it and am so thank full to Rob for taking the time to go with me ….
Thanks again Rob… what can I say J
Angie J - Milton Keynes (Dec 08)

Dear Rob
Thank you for your patience with me through what, for me, has been a difficult time.I have nothing but admiration for your work, and long may it continue. I only wish I hat met you many years ago. Keep up the excellent work.
Many, many thanks.
Claire - Cambridge

Dear Rob
I don't know where to begin to thank you for helping me through a very difficult time in my life. My outlook on life seems to have changed so much for the better, and I am feeling so positive about the future. (My husband) has noticed a distinct change in me, and has commented on my being so much more relaxed and positive - we have even gone and booked a cruise for next year (this client consulted for a fear of travel) I so enjoyed our weekly sessions. Many thanks.
Shirley - Cambridge

I went to see Rob Kelly after seeing 13 different therapists, over a 16 year period. I tried psychotherapy, eft, inner-child, trauma-debrief, anxiety therapy, landmark, homeopathy and much much more - I tried everything, thousands of hours of treatment. In the end it took me just 9 visits to completely change my life - and I mean COMPLETELY. My anxieties are 95% gone, my symptoms have disappeared, and I feel great. Pure Hypnoanalysis has worked wonders for me, and I would recommend it to anyone.
Janet Brewer, London

May 2008:
I first approached Rob for some help with a crippling fear of flying; I know a lot of people don't like to fly but I had managed to avoid getting on a plane for 10 years! I have even backed out of holidays at the last minute and let my husband and sons go without me. When I forced myself to take a trip for the sake of my family earlier this year it was a truly miserable experience, with me not sleeping for weeks beforehand and able to think of very little else. The flight itself was ghastly with me physically sick and eventually being offered sedation by the crew... and my children very upset to see me in such a state. I was wrung out for days afterwards.

Talking to Rob about the phobia he explained that a "quick fix" to this sort of fear is rarely satisfactory in the long term. He explained that powerful and intense (and irrational!) phobias are related to feelings locked deep within a person. Rob seems to be a very good - slightly scarily so! - reader of people and within a short time of chatting with me pinpointed that I am generally very uptight, anxious, overly worried
about deadlines, standards, tidiness, lateness and so on. In short he saw through to the control freak that I thought I was keeping well hidden.

In fact not long before our meeting I'd had to seek medical help after after a severe panic attack over something that on the surface of it seemed totally trivial. As well as tranquillisers my GP had sent me on a course of counselling and while I had hoped this would be helpful the sessions left me tearful, confused and embarrassed. Unable to resolve the anxiety, I reverted to my usual coping strategies - make up on, big smile, work my self senseless to make it look on the surface that yes/, of course/ I'm okay!

Never for one minute could I have related any of this to a fear of flying but Rob explained that conflicting feelings "bubble up" as phobias. He suggested that I come to see him for a short course of hypnotherapy where we could look at some of the events in my past to see why I'd started to think and feel in such a rigid, controlled way. I have to say I was very cynical - to the point of being hostile - to the idea of "therapy". Partly because I have been brought up to believe that talking about yourself is self-indulgent and partly because I honestly couldn't face up to how near I was to crumbling with anxiety. And the idea of being hypnotised... it's like a control freak's worst nightmare!

Rob was very sensitive to my nervousness and reluctance and we spent a good part of each session just chatting, like two ordinary people. It quickly became clear there would be little he'd hadn't heard, or dealt with before. And there was certainly absolutely nothing whatsoever to fear from the part of the session where I was hypnotised. Anyone who is worried that they'll be losing control of any part of themselves should be reassured that nothing of the sort happens. I felt deeply relaxed, probably the most relaxed I've ever been, yet totally aware of what was going on around me and everything I was saying. What was amazing was being able to remember events in my very young childhood with incredible clarity, as if I was there.

I want to say here that Rob does not "recover memories"; what the hypnosis did was allow me to review events I already knew about and examine how I /felt /at exactly that time. Throughout the process I must admit I remained sceptical about how stuff from way back could affect my thinking in the here and now - but the beauty of this process is that all you need to do is sit back in the chair and go with it, and not worry about how it works!

Despite being convinced from the outset that I would be resistant to this sort of help I walked out of the seventh session with Rob a totally changed person. It's hard to describe without talking in cliches what a transformation I experienced; feeling "light" and as if all my cares and worries had been taken away from me. Things I had stressed over for years were just no longer a big deal. Complicated relationship issues made sense: I had several lightbulb moments when I finally understood why certain people had treated me in a particular way. There was a sense of acceptance and peace I'd never had before.

Two months ago I felt like I was a slacker if I stopped for five minutes to have a cup of tea, and this morning I spent two hours downloading music to my iPod without feeling guilty for even a second! I can see that before the therapy I was driving myself into a breakdown and that my physical health had suffered. Since starting to see Rob I've slept incredibly well, stopped having the churning in my stomach I'd lived with for so long I thought it was normal, and I've hardly touched alcohol. Before I always needed to knock back several large drinks before I could give myself permission to enjoy myself.

In a funny way I'm grateful I had that terrible flight earlier this year because without it I would never have met Rob, and been through the therapy, and feel as brilliant as I do now. It's even better knowing it's the last rubbish flight I'll ever have... since then I've done two 10 hour flights and the worst thing I had to cope with was boredom! I've got another long haul trip in the summer and am looking forward to it hugely - now when I think of planes all I anticipate is a big chunk of downtime spent relaxing and being on my way to a lovely holiday.
Lesley Johnson, Cambridge


April 2008:
Firstly can I say what a special person Rob is with a special talent and ability!! Very warm, caring, humorous, patient and understanding. I cannot begin to thankyou enough for what you have done for me and my family. I came to you as a chap who put on a mask to the outside world that everything was fine and dandy, while underneath the surface I was drowning in emotions of guilt, nerves, anxiety, frustration and self hate. But thanks to your help, support, confidence and superb
therapy sessions, I have became so much more confident, guilt free, less frustrated, anxious, nervous and so much more happier with life but more importantly feeling so much more contented with myself as a person. I couldn't recommend this therapy treatment any more if I tried.
Thank you so much for helping change my life for the better!!!!

All the best Rob, take care.  
Dave D - London

March 2008:

'A repressed memory'....
Such an innocuous phrase for something that has affected my behaviour and choices for 40 years and burdoned my life.

I hesitate to explain the hugely profound effect that releasing/recognizing that it exists has had on me because words are inadequate. I had not been aware that it was locked by the venus fly trap power of my subconscious mind, now exercised by Mr Kelly.

It has not only changed who I think I am, thought I was, but my entire being. It has changed all my perceptions of the person I was/am. It has freed me from previously held notions of self loathing and guilt without ever recognizing why or, on occasion, that they even existed.

I now am able to reconsider memories of childhood without the shackle of disgust for myself that I held. Everything is viewed through a different lens.
On the surface – a bright, together achiever who deep down hated something about herself – despised herself for something and displayed this by useless over indulgence – drugs, alcohol, no ‘stop’ button – constantly thwarting any provocative emotion.

Mr Kelly managed to let the genie out of the bottle – I was made to face those things I couldn’t even begin to imagine, let alone accept as fact. My sense of relief and euphoria is overwhelming – the outpouring of bottled up emotion as powerful as giving birth, and indeed for me this is truly like the start of a new life.

Mr Kelly has broken into the cocoon and given me wings.

It has been a life-changing experience – an epiphany – I shall be eternally grateful for... Not least because I can now move on and face the future with confidence, but also because I can remember my past without sadness and shame.

Thank you so much

Karen Partridge, Lincoln

January 2008:
Hypnotherapy with Rob Kelly has changed my life. He has helped me to see the power of the mind and to better understand myself and how my mind works.   Rob's care and concern were apparent immediately  and  these coupled with his expertise, professionalism and commitment have produced remarkable results.  After 7 dreadful years of depression I can see a future. The road Rob took me along was bumpy but he guided and supported me.  He has shown me how to use my abilities constructively rather than against myself.  Thank you so much Rob.
Dr Caroline Hough, Consultant, General Practitioner, London

October 2007:
I can not thank Rob Kelly enough for the new life he has opened up for me!
I suffered from EXTREME social phobia/social anxiety, unable to speak to people in public, including shop assistants, or even hold my head up when walking down the street in case I should make eye contact, even dating... my mouth would become dry, my hands numb and I would begin to hyperventillate just thinking about doing ordinary things like popping to the shops or filling the car with petrol.
I had begun to put life on hold.

A work colleague had mentioned her success at stopping smoking using hypnosis with Rob - her enthusiasm encouraged me to make contact with him myself.
From the offset, Robs message was clear and encouraging about the benefits hypnotherapy with him, would have on me.

The beauty of hypnotherapy for me (I had a course of Pure Hypnoanalysis) was that I didn't have to see the other persons reactions to what I spoke about, as would happen in conselling, for example. I was aware that Rob was in the same room, but he was able to make me feel relaxed and free from 'judgement', although he is of course using his extensive skill and knowledege to analyse what I revealed, but most importantly he made me feel safe.

Through sessions with Rob I discovered the very root of my reluctance to connect with people... it was a REPRESSED MEMORY: an experience so painful, that made me feel so guilty and shameful, I had completely buried it in the back of my mind - I had no idea this had ever happened before I saw Rob.

Once I had 'released' this experience (let out all the emotion) I felt an extreme sense of relief wash over me. I would never have been able to access that memory by myself - it needed Rob and his exceptional ability as a hypnotherapist, to release me from my 20 year rut. Very quickly I noticed my life changing for the better, as did my thrilled family! I am at last able to value and love myself. I welcomed new friends, started smiling hello to passers by, and I flirted with the sexy guy who I'd had my eye on - who is now my boyfriend!!

I have made many positive changes to my life, and I now look forward to the future.
Rob Kelly has made this possible. Thank you so much Rob

Jane Metcalf, Bank Worker, Cambridge


Rob's DREAM Technique has enabled me to identify and change negative
thoughts and beliefs into positive ones. Consequently, I have found myself
approaching many things in a more confident way. Since beginning to use
this technique, I have, also, found that I am much less anxious, have a
better understanding of myself and feel a lot happier and more in control.
Before going to see Rob, I wouldn't have really believed that the critical
way in which I tended to view myself was having such a limiting effect on
my life, nor that it would be possible to easily alter that! I would
certainly recommend Rob's DREAM Technique!
'C', Cambridge

Dearest Rob
I promised you I would write and tell you of my successes since seeing you last year...
I consulted you for blushing and social anxiety, which were preventing me from 'getting out there' and leading a happy, fulfilled life.  I was very depressed, wasn't happy in my work, and couldn't find a partner.
Well... it has ALL changed now!
I find it difficult to explain just how much the therapy has changed my life, because I cannot believe it myself sometimes.....
I am MUCH happier, and haven't felt at all depressed in nearly a year (I realise now that you were right when you said I wasn't  really depressed anyway - just 'tearing the arse' out of my social phobia) I sing in a band (can you believe that??), have a lovely partner and a great job.
I feel genuinely happy, for the first time in my life.
I had tried many other therapies, including counseling, CBT, EFT, and 'normal' hypnotherapy, as well as 18 months on Seroxat: none of these things helped.

My 9 sessions with you are a blur now, but they have really, REALLY changed my life.  Thank you so much Rob, you  really are a special man!
Sara Parker, Cambridge

Since the analysis I have been feeling loads better my moods have lifted and life has such a greater ease about it.  I think the biggest thing that has astounded me is that a friend and I organised a ‘Nature Day’ event funded through Breathing Places BBC for some school children.  I had to give a welcome speech and give a talk to 50 adults and the 290 children of how the day would run and what they were here to do.  When it was all over I said to Stephen that I would not have been able to do that if I had not been through analysis.  Its ok to be me and I have so much more of the can do attitude….
Karen W

Dear Rob,
I'd like to drop a line to say thanks for your help to stop smoking.  Though other than a brief chat I can't remember much more than some background music and that I then became a non-smoker.  No side effects, total indifference to others smoking, another success story.  A real life changer - thanks again.  
Martin, April 2002.

 

"Hypno help - to beat the weed"


Extract from the Cambridge Evening News, 8th March 2000

"Nicotine is not addictive and giving up smoking is easy" - these are the controversial words of Robert Kelly, a Hypnotherapist with one of the best success rates in the country.

"Getting people to give up smoking is about the easiest thing I do," he said. And to prove it, he promised to hypnotise News' Sue Green, a serial smoker who has tried every method in the book to give up the dreaded weed. In a lengthy consultation from his Cambridge practice, Mr Kelly talked through his beliefs, about why people smoke - and why they find it hard to give up.

"It's my belief that it is a fallacy that people are addicted to nicotine," he said. "Smokers do not crave nicotine while they are asleep. You just need to go into any drug rehabilitation clinic to see heroin addicts banging their heads against the wall in the night - because if you are truly addicted to something, you need it in your bloodstream morning, noon and night. People have different personality types and those who smoke are Oral Compulsives - if it is not smoking, it is food, or nailbiting, or drinking. It is not a question of will power, of lack of self confidence, it is all about anxiety and stress".

"When people feel anxiety or stress they feel they need to restore confidence by smoking (or drinking, or eating). The reason why so many people fail to stop smoking is because there is no real incentive to give up. People usually feel that they have given up something for nothing i.e. there is no 'tangible' or immediate reward / benefit."

"What I do is offer people something in return. Every time they do not smoke they will feel a buzz (reward) far greater than the one they ever got from smoking."

Mr Kelly also uses positive suggestion to make sure his patients do not turn to another oral substitute, such as overeating. To hypnotise Sue, Mr Kelly used a combination of suggestion therapy, visualisation and positive thinking.

Hypnotherapist Robert Kelly has seen between 250-400 smokers a year for the last ten years. Last year, of the 400 smokers he saw, only 18 returned for a second session because they had gone back to smoking.

Mr Kelly, who is based at The Beechwood Practice, in Hills Road, Cambridge, has studied hypnosis, psychotherapy and psychoanalysis for over 11 years, and since setting up practice in Cambridge eight years ago has seen over 3000 patients.

As well as smoking cessation, he has also successfully treated people suffering from phobias, migraines, sexual problems, depression and insomnia.

Mr Kelly offers a free introductory consultation to people who would like to find out more before they embark on therapy. For more information contact Robert Kelly on 01223 301577
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"A patient's eye view"

by Sue Green
I'm not crabby and I'm not smoking - but it's early days. It's been more than 48 hours - and I haven't had a cigarette. No big deal? It is for me. And I feel completely relaxed about it. That is the big difference.

Before this latest, and hopefully final effort to beat the weed, colleagues and family would have experienced the less attractive side of my nature - the short-tempered, unreasonable, sometimes hysterical side that has accompanied every other attempt at giving up.

When I arrived at Robert Kelly's office, I was anxious; I could not sit down in the waiting room. I paced. I was not convinced that I could be hypnotised, and thought the hypnotherapy approach would be, at best, ineffective. I am not weird, and not often wacky, but I can spot both characteristics a mile off.

Robert's office was normal (no couch, no odd time pieces to swing in front of my eyes) and Robert was normal too (no particular hairstyle, no wild eyebrows, no glint of madness behind the eyes). He was charming and professional and I soon felt more at ease. Maybe there was something to it after all.

His statistics speak for themselves - a 90% plus success rate and very few clients needing a second dose of this particular kind of medicine. We chatted, I unwound. Robert was straight with me throughout. During my initial consultation, he said, he can weed out those he is unable to help, and I was a perfect subject.

Robert sat me in a comfortable chair and used his voice to induce me into a state of hypnosis - this did not feel like anything I had expected. I knew I could open my eyes at any time. I could hear him. But I felt calm, warm, safe and very, very relaxed.

I came away with an impression of Robert as a favourite teacher. I liked him, I liked his approach and enthusiasm for his subject, I like the fact that he was normal.

As well as wanting the therapy to succeed for all the right reasons, there is an added incentive - part of me doesn't want to let him down. He was so sure the therapy was going to work on me. I was, after all, an ideal subject.

As so far, so good. I'm not smoking and I'm not crabby, but it's early days....

"It's goodbye to smoking"

Extract from the Cambridge Evening News, March 30 2000

It's goodbye to cigarettes after 25 years and one Hypno session News assistant chief sub editor Sue Green gave up smoking in time for National Non Smoking Day after visiting a Hypnotherapist but that was more than three weeks ago.... It's been three whole weeks since I went to the hypnotist and I haven't smoked since. This has amazed me and it has astonished my family and friends who, in the past have been subjected to the extremely short-tempered outbursts which have always accompanied previous "I've packed it in" attempts. I can't say I haven't missed it.

There were times when I was sorely tempted but I have not experienced the gnawing cravings of the past. I had just one session with hypnotherapist Robert Kelly, who sees his clients at the Beechwood Practice in Hills Road, Cambridge. He said at the time I was an ideal subject and one session would be enough. It seems he was right. I posted a daily bulletin at work during the first week, letting colleagues know how things were going; Day 1 No I haven't Day 2 All is well Day 3 Cruising Day 4 Still clean but tricky moment while watching the TV that night, which was overcome by the consumption of chocolate biscuits Day 5 I'm Okay The first weekend my children conspired against me and I nearly buckled.

The second week was much as the first. There were a couple of times when I really missed the habit but I resisted. Now, here we are in week four and still all is well. I think about smoking less than I did and, in fact, I'm feeling quietly pleased with myself. I can't believe how different it has been this time. During the past 25 years, I have 'given up' more times than I can remember. I was only ever successful during pregnancy, and even then I cheated.! I know it's still early days but I have been to a pub and too a party and I haven't smoked.

My children have all been monsters and I haven't smoked.

My colleagues are still smoking - and I'm not.

I've got this feeling I might have cracked it this time!!!

"Hypnotism and the demon weed"

Extract from the Cambridge Evening News, October 23 1999

Alternative therapies are being used by an increasing number of people, and next weekend the Natural Healing Exhibition comes to Chilford Hall in Linton. Lisa Millard spoke to Graham Lee, who has given up 40 cigarettes a day with the help of Hypnotherapy. Graham Lee has smoked 40 cigarettes a day for most of his life. The 51 year old car salesman from Quy started smoking when he was 12 and all attempts to give up the demon weed had failed.

"As well as forty fags a day I'd smoke five or six cigars as well" says Graham "I've tried patches and gum but they did absolutely no good at all. And they are expensive. And the gum tastes horrible." Graham says his £120 investment in nicotine patches did not pay off and his 40-a-day habit was costing him about £140 per month. He does not describe himself as a man who is particularly open to the world of alternative therapies and admits to a certain amount of skepticism. But when he heard that a couple of his friends had given smoking with the help of Hypnotherapy, he decided to give it a go.

"I went to see Robert Kelly in Cambridge. I wasn't nervous about it but I certainly didn't think it would work. Nothing else had - so why should this?" He turned up early for his appointment at the Beechwood Practice so went and had a coffee at the café around the corner from the Hills Road surgery. "That's where I smoked my last cigarette," says Graham who has not lit up now for more than two weeks. "I was there for forty minutes and he just talked to me about how I didn't need to smoke and how I was not addicted."

"I sat in an armchair and closed my eyes but it wasn't like you see on television. I didn't go into a trance and I could hear what he was saying to me all the time. He told me that I just didn't need cigarettes." When the session , which cost £90, was over, Graham says he felt a little bit strange but knew exactly where he was. "I walked into that room a life long smoker, and walked out a non smoker. My friends thought I was barmy. They offered me cigarettes and I would just say "no thanks, I don't smoke".

Graham has not given up his regular visits to his local pub where he drinks with his friend who continues to be a heavy smoker. And the presence of his 25 year old son, who is "lighting up all the time" and works in the same office, has not caused Graham to reach for a cigarette. " When they first light up and I get the smell I think that would be nice - but the urge only lasts for a few seconds" Graham says that his wife, who doesn't smoke, is pleased that he has finally given up and that he is even developing typical non-smoking traits. "I can really notice how my friends who smoke, really smell of it. It is a horrible smell but I never noticed it before because I smelt like that myself." "I would definitely recommend anyone try Hypnotherapy. Giving up smoking is hard for anyone but it is definitely easier with Hypnotherapy "


"Long live the King!"

Extract from the Cambridge Evening News, March 16 1994

Mike Traynier is ready to re-live the life of Elvis on stage - thanks to a local Hypnotherapist. Before he could imitate the king of rock, he had to get rid of his stage fright Now after a visit to hypnotherapist Robert Kelly, he is ready to don his blue suede shoes and re-run Elvis's life from the age of ten - at the Labour club in Romsey, Cambridge. Mr Traynier, of Darwin Drive, Cambridge, said: "about three years ago I went on holiday and was forced on to the stage to sing - it was the fear of looking stupid that made me do it, I suppose". "My family and the other people there couldn't believe it, they couldn't believe how good I was".

"I went to see Rob Kelly for some Hypnotherapy because I wanted to have the guts to get up and do it again, but without the fear" Mr Kelly said: "there are two types of Hypnotherapy. The first is Analytical where you establish the CAUSE of a problem, and release the emotion. The second is suggestion therapy - which I used on Michael". "Here you get people to relax and you suggest to them for example, you don't want to smoke and you are going to give up - and with smoking cessation I claim a 92% success rate".

"It was the same with Mike; I just suggested to him that he would not be afraid to go on stage and he would have the confidence to do it - it was a big step for him". "I have never heard anyone who sounds as much like Elvis as he does - I can't believe how good he is" Mr Traynier will be performing on March 26th at 8.30pm.

Katy Edwards - East Anglian Daily Times - March 2002

ROB Kelly is the kind of man who makes you want to spill your innermost secrets within minutes of saying hello. With his sparkling, laughing blue eyes and casual jeans and a t-shirt he waves his clients in without so much as a hint of judgement.
Nothing you could say would shock him.

It is all part of his act - or should I say profession (I am, as yet, still very unsure whether to remain cynical on this one). Rob Kelly is a hypnoanalyst and hypnotherapist by trade - the therapy comes later, once he has identified the root of the problem.
His alluring image, together with his warmly decorated consulting room and huge leather chair (for the client), contrives to put his subjects at their ease before they can be induced - by Rob's deep, mellifluous voice - into a hypnotic state for treatment to begin.

Rob, an administrator for the International Association of Hypno-analysts with a practice in Cambridge, pitches his methods as a panacea for everything from sexual problems, phobias and obsessions to smoking, nail-biting and bed-wetting. He claims to have cured up to 95 per cent of the 5,000 or so smokers who have turned to him for help quitting their habit. Although he admits the smokers pay his bills, it is the more complex analytical hypnotherapy that really fires him up - unearthing the often deeply buried and long, or deliberately forgotten, roots of psychological problems through hypnosis. Whereas hypnotherapy, or suggestion therapy works by introducing ideas such as 'you are now a non-smoker' while the client is in a super-relaxed state and can be effective almost immediately, hypnoanalysis takes far longer - sometimes up to eight or 10 sessions.

Hypnoanalysis works on the assumption that every symptom - fear of flying, nightmares, lack of confidence, paranoia, compulsions etc., - must have a cause. Rob believes the symptoms will be cured once the cause has been identified and accepted by his clients. Through hypnosis, patients confront memories that have been locked away for a lifetime, often because they are too horrific for the conscious mind to deal with, or because the guilt associated with them is too strong to bear. His sessions often culminate in highly emotional moments of recollection.

Rob argues that other forms of treatment for phobias and anxieties, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which provides patients with coping mechanisms, or pharmacological remedies, remove only the symptom, not the cause of the problem. He added that psychotherapy also fails because it encourages the mind to intellectualize the problem, thereby making false links between symptoms and causes, whereas hypnoanalysis taps into the unconscious mind, beyond thought. He said: "Neither my nor my client's intellect is involved in the process. Whatever we think is important doesn't matter. If I was to make a judgement about whatever I thought was significant, or asked him what he thought was important, all we would have would be intellectualized nonsense. It has to come from somewhere deeper than that."

He asks me why I am dressed in black. I admit, rather embarrassed, that I think darker colours are more slimming. He jumps in: "There is always a reason why we are the way we are. If we were to start with that presumption we might be working from entirely the wrong basis. It may be that you have an unconscious association with death or a problem getting over your grandfather's funeral. It may not, but it would be wrong to start therapy based on a falsity." To demonstrate his method, Rob encourages me to join him in a word association exercise, surrendering our intellectual faculties in favour of spontaneity. We go the usual cup-saucer, sky-sea route. "If you are open and honest and say the first thing that comes into your head, it is very difficult to intellectualize," he explained. "We do the same in therapy, except we do it with memories.

To do that you have to trust and believe in your therapist, he must be likeable and professional and you need to feel safe and secure. "I'm not an authoritarian sitting here in a suit. I'm not putting up any barriers. I'm relaxed and open. I don't pretend I'm a doctor with any great insight. I let my clients do the talking." So there is no swinging pendulum, no mind-control, no barking like a dog or hopping around on one foot. I am quite disappointed. A little part of me wants a Svengali. Can't he make me do the Birdie-Dance just for fun? Apparently not. "There is no question of being controlled or manipulated, or even induced into a deep trance state," said Rob.

"A person in hypnosis is not asleep, they are often more aware of what is taking place than usual and their senses function more efficiently." As an example of a non-intellectually verbalized memory Rob retells the story of an elderly client who had been afraid to fly her whole life. "She kept remembering her grandfather's funeral, at the grave site. The whole experience was about how far down the hole was. Eventually we got the correct link - she had been pushed down a well as a child. The claustrophobia, the fear of flying was all linked to this very early feeling of being out of control. "She had had those anxieties for more than 60 years. It was all bottled away at the back of her mind. After six sessions we had got rid of all that emotion, we'd found the cause of the problem."

He has supreme confidence in his art. Speaking of a client he had seen earlier the same day, who had a terrible, irrational fear of being sick - Emetophobia - leaving him unable to eat in public, he said: "I've got further with him in one session than he has progressed in 10 years of psychotherapy. Give it another two sessions and his problem will have completely disappeared." I ask him how he can tell his methods are working. His answer was unequivocal. "Experience. I can tell when the psyche is making the appropriate links that the therapy is working correctly. You know when you have got there because all his emotions will come out. The person might start trembling, blushing or crying. "By the end of therapy this person's phobia will have disappeared. His life will have changed completely. How good am I going to feel then? There is no better job satisfaction than that."

Whereas modern psychoanalytical theory may ascribe emotional problems and phobias to cumulative trauma - a build-up of many distressing events - Rob insisted phobias were always caused by a very specific, single event, nearly always experienced in childhood. "If you fail your driving test a few times, you might be nervous about passing, but it would be unlikely to give you a phobia about driving," he said. "To have a phobia, or anxiety symptoms, you have to have bottled up an awful lot of emotion for a very long time." Rob was anxious to point out that the root may not always be sexual - a common misconception in therapy........ He explained that with ordinary distressing events, such as the death of his own father three years ago, a person releases a measure of emotion every time something prompts them to think of their bereavement. "The amount would diminish each time," said Rob. "I would think of him less and less until I could finally remember him without pain.

The cup, once full of emotion, is now empty.

We only have a finite amount of emotion about things. It is a natural predisposition to be able to resolve emotional trauma. If we couldn't, we would all be suicidal by the time we were 40." He claims that especially traumatic memories can remain fully intact and locked away for an entire lifetime, causing any amount of psychological damage to the key-holder.

Rob abounds with enthusiasm for this side of his work and his faith is catching. I am beginning feel there is something in all this. We all want to believe in the power of the mind, the mystery of the subconscious, the intangible and unproven truth that therein lies the root of all our problems, personality defects, phobias and maladies. It is nice to be told we are complex. Flattering, almost. What better way of soothing the self-absorbed hysteric, the neurotic, the hypochondriac? The happy symbiosis of the therapist feeding the paranoia and the paranoid quite literally feeding (clothing and housing) the therapist. Shouldn't we all stop wallowing and get a grip? Now I am being too cynical.

Rob claims he can spot obsessional clients a mile off and refuses to be corrupted by the promise of easy pickings: "I try not to treat them, I don't get involved. You don't tend to get a good reaction with them, they can't give themselves totally to the therapy. They are so preoccupied with it they can't relax enough to resolve their problem." Rob, now 34, first became interested in hypnotherapy and hypnoanalysis aged 19 when a hypnotherapist helped his grandmother to stop smoking. Rob has treated 3,000 people with anxieties, from across the UK and abroad, together with his impressive record for smokers. He said: "I haven't met a person yet whose phobia couldn't be cured by hypnoanalytical therapy. There must always be a reason why we think anything, or have certain emotional responses to anything." He also believes "normal" people can benefit enormously from hypnoanalytical therapy. "It can make you feel calmer, more successful in emotional terms and less susceptible to illness and anxiety," he claimed. Classing myself, very roughly, in the "normal" category, I thought I might take him up on his offer, starting with my first session this week.

I will keep you updated on my progress, but as I warned Rob - I am a hard nut to crack. My cynicism may be more deeply rooted than my childhood traumas.

A Fear of Flying - GONE!

Hi Rob
I can't believe I've done it!
Having always had such a phobia about flying and even more so since Sept. 11th, I really didn't think I would ever be able to fly again.

Although I was determined not to let it mess up my life, I really could not have faced getting on a plane without your help. Prior to my coming to see you I had cancelled two holidays due to my absolute terror of flying.
My husband was none too pleased as you can imagine, but unfortunately he was very understanding. Having tried various other alternative therapies without success, you were my last resort.

I found it extremely helpful to have the session with you the day prior to my decision to 'have a go'. A friend suggested that I started with an internal flight, only an hour there and back, which as it turned out was ideal. I informed the airline check-in desk that I was a "nervous flyer" and they in turn advised the flight crew, who were extremely kind and understanding throughout. I must admit I did have a moment of panic as I was being escorted towards the plane, I could feel myself starting to shake and my hands were very sweaty!. However I managed to pull myself together, remembering you telling me how proud I would feel of myself when I had achieved my goal, and I must admit it really worked.
So now I've flown twice in one day, which is a huge step for me.
I don't think I shall ever get over feeling anxious about flying, and I shall still need some help for the next couple of times, but at least I now know I can do it!.
From an Ex-nervous flyer

An Ex-SMOKER

Dear Rob
Twelve months ago today I came to you to quit smoking.
I am delighted to say that I have not touched a cigarette since. Thank you so much for releasing me from this bad habit. The money I spent on your session has been "saved" many times over since I saw you!!.
Best regards, Martyn, a non-smoker.

Dear Rob
Having tried many many different, if not most complimentary therapies and practiced in many myself, and knowing what I now know about Pure Hypnoananlysis and what it has uncovered and released, I can now see how these other therapies just won’t have any lasting results.  
Whilst these other therapies can be good for relaxation and short term help, using Pure Hynoanalysis really gets to the root of the problem and is perfect for people who want lasting results, but are prepared to put in the effort.  
Nicky

 

The following comments and testimonials are all related to seminars, training courses and workshops that Rob has written and presented:

From Rob's 'Easy Smoking Cessatio' Course:

40 a day, for forty years. Stopped in 60 minutes. Fu**ing unbelievable! I Don’t miss it, I don’t think about, I feel bloody marvelous. Thank you so much.
Angie Hood, Cambridge

Dear Rob
I just wanted to drop you a line to thank you the entertaining and amusing as well as informative seminar last Sunday.
I recently qualified as a Hypnotherapist this August having taken a 12 month course with Chrysalis and therefore was a little unsure regarding the benefit of attending another seminar. How wrong could I be!! The technique in your smoking cessation was both incredibly interesting as well as fascinating. It took me a little time to get my head around the ''reverse psychology' (as I understood it to be) but now having read and re read the fantastic manual that you supplied I have it fully embedded in my brain!!
To be honest with you, having spent a day with your good self, students/members and the like, it was terrific for me to be amongst such a great bunch of people.(I have swopped numbers with a few of the people there which is great!!) Since leaving my course I have felt like I have been thrown out to the wolves!! And I am sure you will agree with me that for the majority of trained therapists in this industry, it is more about offering the best course of treatment to help someone cure whatever it is that is holding them back from leading a happy and fullfilled life. Even though I had passed my exams, was technically qualified and had treated people for smoking I was still not that convinced that I would be able to offer the best service to my clients regarding Smoking Cessation - now I am off and ready to work my magic!!
I am now completely secure in the knowledge that I have the confidence, self belief and format to rid these poor people of such a debilitating habit. I feel quite at liberty to charge a fee that reflects my professional ability to help them quit smoking easily knowing that once I have changed their belief system regarding why they smoke then they will never even think about smoking again. Complete non smokers!!
I have contacted the IAPH regarding your home study course and have already subscribed to your next seminar in Coventry in early December as I honestly believe that you know what your'e talking about!! And I want to know what you know!
Thanks again. Regards
Rita Smith, Hyp.Dip

Without a shadow of a doubt Rob Kelly has created the most insightful, thorough and powerful smoking cessation method available.
Barry Kieran

“Something magical happened the day after the Rob Kelly Method course that cemented in my mind the techniques which help your client the most are the ones that have been tried and tested again and again!
I hadn’t realised how important the dysfunctional behaviour and distorted thinking models were until I found myself sitting in front of a client, who’d tried many times to stop in the past, thinking ... they just can’t see what’s really happening!
So with my new-found enthusiasm I started to guide my client through Rob’s 12 step formula. Well all I can say is ‘it was so easy’. From start to finish the session lasted 57 minutes with the client leaving their session absolutely motivated and very happy with themselves ... as a non-smoker!
This course has already paid for itself, so any hypnotherapist who wants to seriously help people stop smoking would be crazy not to book themselves on the Rob Kelly Method course, if they want to be known as a successful therapist!”
Gary Foster

I just want to let you know that both Honor and myself really enjoyed the 'Stop Smoking Easily' course on Sunday. The course did for us 'everything it said on the tin' . . STOP SMOKING EASILY! . . . and as always was presented in your unique, light hearted, original and easy to understand way.
Here in Ireland as well as having my own private hypnotherapy practice I am also employed as senior addictions counsellor accredited with the IAAAC (Irish Association of Alcohol and Addiction Counsellors) but having said that, I have to tell you Rob I have learnt so much from attending your course on
Stop Smoking, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS COURSE NO MATTER HOW MUCH PEOPLE THINK THEY ALREADY KNOW ABOUT THE SUBJECT. . . TRUST ME, YOU WILL LEARN SOME MORE. . . Thanks again Rob.
Kind regards, David & Honor Birch

I loved it... I was fucking spellbound - and I mean that – and is something I would never normally say - at the way you worked with Roy (volunteer smoker wanting to stop) - it really ripped a hole in my plastic reality ceiling!
I also loved your way of presenting – very provocative and a real breath of fresh air – no pun intended! I am looking forward to AND have the appropriate amount it butterflies/excitement about using it too – it MUST be possible if others can do it!
Anyway a really great seminar - You’re a great, no bullshit guy
Al Whitton - London

As a result of your excellent course I feel completely confident to change my whole approach to smokers, so much so that I'm now actively seeking out more clients.
The concepts make such perfect sense to me and although I've only had one opportunity to road test this - I can claim 100% success so far!!!!
Gina Brown Hypnotherapist
www.head4change.com/

The ‘Rob Kelly method’ of giving up smoking is absolutely fantastic.
I’ve been using it for over 3 years now, and have helped many 100’s of people to give up cigarettes. It is so different to the more traditional hypnosis techniques I used before I attended your course.
It just makes sense for you and your client to take an honest look at why they started smoking, and to compensate them as they let go of the habbit.
So they are ‘giving up something good for something better’, rather than ‘sacrificing’ they really love.
Rebecca Bedford

I recently attended the recent "Stop Smoking Easily - with the Rob Kelly
method" seminar and was totally absorbed throughout the whole day. The
way in which Rob explained in great detail how to influence a persons
belief system was an fantastic experience in itself. His live
demonstration of a stop smoking session with a current smoker reinforced
how easy it is to change a persons to believing they are a non smoker.
Thanks Rob for a excellent seminar. I am looking forward to treating my
first client.
Anne Costelloe - London

Rob's course was invaluable in helping me in my practice, to know exactly how to assess and motivate a client to quit smoking in 1 session, easily. Thanks Rob. The course was excellent
Ron Vander Holt

The Rob Kelly Method is a superb technique for stopping people smoking. It’s different to every other approach there is, and far more successful. I would recommend it to anyone.
Richard Parsons

Rob Kelly has a profound and unique insight into smoking cessation, and his ‘stop smoking easily’ course is the best I have ever seen.
Paul Douglass

It has been nearly 3 years and I can honestly say I know I will never have another cigarette. Thanks to your method I know I’m finally over them!
Ayse Banbridge

I am an Analytical Hypnotherapist in practice in Lincoln and recently attended the STOP SMOKING EASILY course using the ROB KELLY METHOD in Harrow and was completely blown away with the method. It’s simplicity is its strength and I am confident that my success rate will improve by adopting this method. Thanks Rob for a lively, thought provoking and extremely informative training course delivered as always in an excellent way.
Helen Houghton

Many thanks for your recent 'Stop Smoking Easily' course that I attended. I am now using only your method in my clinic and my success rates have sky-rocketed!
Liz Hogon

It was I think 3 years ago that I went on your couse so I have helped 100's of clients since, using your method - with a 95% success rate for people wanting to give up smoking, and a 100% success rate on people giving up cocaine.
Becki Bedford

Rob Kelly has the unique ability at being able to explain the process of helping someone change from being an adamant smoker to someone who's happy to live the rest of their life as a natural non-smoker. His techniques 'just work!
Sue Wilson

The Rob Kelly Method is an amazingly powerful technique that is able to completely change a smokers belief system - into that of a non-smoker. I had smoked solidly for 18 years and was in Rob's clinic for under an hour....
I haven't smoked, or wanted to smoke, ever since.
Dr James Froggatt Phd.

Rob has completely reversed what we thought we knew about smoking cessation and re-written the ‘addiction rulebook’. I genuinely believe that The Rob Kelly Method is the most insightful & innovative technique in the field of smoking cessation that is available today.
Dr Richard Warwick